I acutally saw this episode of Dr. Phil...it was called "Brat Camp" and the situation with this mother and son was very sad. They had lost their daughter (sister to the son)a few years before and were so overcome with grief that they take it out on the son (the one slapping the mom). I am a mom of 3 kids and believe me I would go balistic if any one of my kids ever even attempted to slap me, but there was more to this story then you are seeing in this clip. In the show there wre other families and it actually ended up being the parents that needed to do things different in their parenting skills and Dr. Phil was coaching them and they were actually a group of good kids.

That's what I figured! I hope the rest of the pp will read this comment.

Thank you for commenting and telling the whole story. I knew she wasnt parenting him right for him to even think it was okay to talk to her like that. I cant believe how violent and abusive several of the comments have been...and they wonder why kids act out the way they do.

Yes it is sad the way the son and mother were getting along. However, telling your mother to shut up and then slapping her, He said to get her attention. I would have beat the crap out of that kid. I have spanked my kids when they deserved it, and I would do it again. Now it was mentioned that they had a loss in the family, a daughter. My In Laws lost one of there sons to suicide a few years back, he was late teens early 20s. They also have a daughter that at the time was in her mid teens, and right after this decided she wanted to leave home and move in with her Boyfriend. The parents, because they were grieving for there son were afraid that she would do the same thing and let her go. She took advantage of the situation and her parents. She is now older and understands what she did was wrong and is back home. What i am trying to say is that your children can spot weakness and WILL exploit it when every chance they get. This family let the boy get to this point because she was weak. Yes it was the parents fault but that boy need to get delt with for what he did.

I hope I didn't ofend anyone.

there are always two sides of the story. its so sad, he has so much anger and hes so young to be having that much too...he needs help

"...they were actually a group of good kids".

Yo man, you have been duped by the kid. The kid is smart and acts like he is helpless and wants help. But the fact is that he just like to be 'the boss'. But no matter what, you never let your kid hit you.. EVER! The mom should've reacted more harshly after getting slapped to show this fat kid who is the boss. The mom obviously did not raise this kid to this age properly. So it's partially her fault, and might be too late now.

It doesn't matter if the mom slap the kid in the past. She slapped him probably for disciplinary purpose, which is right. The kid slapped the mom for revengeful or example purpose, which is wrong.

I don't care if the mom had slapped him. This kid should never slap his mom. At this rate, when he is 18, he will treat her like piece of crap. That's the problem with US child raising systems. It's focused too much on the kid and saying they are correct even if they are wrong. (and don't argue with me on this, there have been proven research.. or even perfect examples like how someone said, it's actually the parents fault...blah..doesn't matter.. kids need discipline else they will end up to be trouble as an adult). I don't see many kids respecting their parents in the US, compare to other places like Asia.

I agree with the person that said a kid should never ever hit the parent. EVER!
That is what is wrong with this country. BRATS are running the country. YOU check it out, Look at the history of the U.S.
I was born in the 1960's, and let me tell you , back then , you raised your voice to your parent, you got your head knocked off. YOu lifted a hand to your parent, you got your head knocked off.
And back then, social services DID not stick it's nose in over it. You didn't hear of brsts walking into schools and blowing people away. You didn't have people having to pay taxes out the hind end for stupid programs that DON'T WORK. Children need to be disciplined. If I would have been that mother, I would have slapped that brat's head off ! And then he would have been sent to a home. If I had to pull some time in jail, then so be it.

what good kid slaps his own mother

That is crazy. But i think listening to what each other has to say is very important. This child is old enough to tell his mom how he feels and what he likes and don't like. If you listen to the child he was trying to explain to his mom that the way she reacted yesterday in public was not right and it embarrased him. So she slapped him in public because he wouldn't listen. Now look what happens she wouldn't listen so he slaps her. Monkey see monkey do. There is a time and place for everything. there is nothing wrong with disciplining your child but keep your respect while doing it. She lost her respect. Now he could careless and he feels he is the boss of his own body. ~~~ms. blackalicious

Amen! You hit the nail on the head! Total disrespect... if you want it, give it.

I second that. That boy would not be able to use that arm ever again

I agree with u i would had fu@#ed him up.

I'VE NEVER HIT A WOMAN IN MY 43 YEARS OF LIVING. But I would like to slap that dumb ***** myself. If a kid of mine would ever even think about doing something like that to me that mother f**ker would NEVER get up off the floor !!!!!!!! Period!!!!!!! Some of you people out here in todays world make me sick. This stupid bullsh*t about this counting 1, 2, 3 is bullsh*t. I've had my ass tore up plenty of times. Why because then I deserved it. And 43 years later I'm still here. WAKE UP PEOPLE THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHIPPING A CHILD AND ABUSE. ABUSE DOING IT BECAUSE YOU FEEL LIKE DOING IT. Whipping is because the child needs to be corrected. If they don't listen then you have to show them. That's the main reason why kids don't show respect anymore because of dumbas people like this. I know there will be alot of you out there that can't believe what I'm say. Listen BELIEVE IT BECAUSE I'M TALKING TO YOU IF THATS WHAT YOU LET A CHILD DO. What that litle punk is doing is WRONG NO MATTER HOW YOU LOOK AT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THE BIGGEST PROBLEM HERE IS THE MOTHER. YOU HAVE TO PUT HIS FAT ASS IN CHECK. I have 2 daughters I've only had to whip 1 one time in her 20 years of life. She was playing to close to the road she was told not to and the very next day she was right back out there. If I would have stood there and counted to 3 or whatever you dumbass people do she might be dead. I tore her little ass up 1 time and she NEVER did that EVER again. And she is just as fine and healthy at 20 as she was when she was first born. I really hate to be rude but for all you bleeding hearts out there you can kiss my ass. I've had it. Sitting here looking at stupid sh*t and I'm supposed to feel sorry for her? I might would have had she knocked that kid on his ass. Then I would tell the judge you take him if you can raise him any better then walked the hell out of the court room. WAKE THE F UP PEOPLE!!!!!

I agree. Plenty of beatings need to be passed around these days. The fear of consequence has been lost among our youth. They act first and think later instead of thinking first. This is a prime example of it!

I agree with you whole heartedly. You don't let kids spank you. You do the spanking. The world has it wrong. Look at the world now since we have had TIME OUT. We are worse off than when we were spanked. If I wasn't spanked for some of the things I did some of you may not have been here to read this. I got back on the right track quickly. It helps to have a stern Dad in the house too. He and Mom backed each other up. So I couldn't play one against the other. Like I said your statement was right on but easy on the cussing. I wasn't allowed to do that either. Nor did I hear it in my home. So therefor I don't do it now.

Yeah!! The more beatings the better. That child's spirit needs to be broken. Someone obviously taught this child to compare and contrast and to make sense of the world around them. They are implementing the tools they have been given: histrionics, violence and emotional hurt to manipulate in order to get the response they want. His mother is lazy and immature in her child rearing and her kid, hurt and betrayed, is further perplexed when mom doesn't reward him for his perfect mirroring of her behavior. He is even trying to rationalize in a doctor Phil/Oprah like vernacular. Boo hiss . . poor mommy IS AN ADULT ARGUING WITH A CHILD. Please someone make note of Munchausen by proxy . . . the psychiatric version.

It's assholes like you that make serial killers. The rage you f**kers build in these kids where they are supposed to hide there feelings and just go along with there obvious selfish parents will eventually come out. I had a horrible mother who screamed alot. Her day was bad, she would come home and complain about something and wouldn't let the subject go. If i rolled my eyes that would be reason to hit me or threaten to hit me. I had to stay there like a f**king statue. I have alot of rage, luckily it has never manifested itself into homicidal acts but, there are times where i can relate to serial killers thinking. I can watch some pretty sick stuff like beheading and not be affected in the least. The suffering of others is actually comforting to me. It twisted thinking but, i can analyize my thoughts and know the difference between what is right and what is wrong. Some people do not go thru that process. They just go with how they feel and that's where you get serial killers, rapists and people like that. Kids should be allowed to express themselves constructively. The kids slapping the mother is wrong but, he only did it cause the camera was on him. Look at him a few seconds before he smacks her. He eyes switch to the camera and then he smacks her. I say good for him. He's trying to get the rage out by expressing himself on a show where he can get some help with his problem(mother).

I love you....lol jk jk no but seriously i was reading all the coments and almost all of them encouraged the boy to be physically punished and i agree people don't understand...there needs to be MORE PARENTING CLASSES ....when will the sickness ever end? hitting or any physical form of punishment shouldn't be allowed i think that there should be punishment that way they do think about doing something before they do it...why should we teach kids to hit?

shutup its ur own fault ur angry cuz u still cant get over da past let it go and youll feel better dont use ur past as a way to blame someone on ur own flaws cuz u cant use her as an excuse 4ever

your mother has isues!you are as imature as that kid!!!

Man let me tell you, I'm with you all the way on this. There's nothing wrong with timeouts for minor misbehavior but kids need to be put in their place, and like you said, whipping is because the child needs to be corrected and the example you gave about the hazardousness of playing close to a road is a VERY good reason to slap some sense into a kid. Not to power monger but to keep the kid out of the hospital or even worse, a coffin.
Kids need clear leadership or they will fail at life and make other people's lives miserable in the process.

Try taking some privileges away instead because now your daughters are statistically more likely to be attracted to men who dont treat them right or hit them. Good job pops. Ignorant f**k

Before I start breaking his body parts, I would call the police to make sure they're in route to the house. When they get there, I (might) be done punishing him (not killing him). Then I'll inform the the officers to take care of him, feed and cloth him if they're going to put me in jail for disciplining my child. Our judicial system is partly the blame for the way some of these kids act and react, but our judicial system is quick to release child predators for repeatedly having sex with babies. OUR U.S. LAW MAKERS SUCK! And so does the sytem.

I WOULD HAVE BEAT THE DOG CRAP OUT MY SON THEN I WOULD HAVE BEEN ARRESTED ,THIS IS THE ULTIMATE NO NO!!!!!!!!!!

This is definitely a disfunctional family. There is no way my child would even think about talking to me in that tone of voice let alone slap me. This young man definitely had control in this situation. As a matter of fact when he slapped her she instantly became fearful of him you can tell it in her reaction to the slap. But what she should have done was to never let it get that far in the beginning. Take notice parents, this is what children do to you when you become their friends and not their parents...there is no fear...anything you fear you will respect.

Kids mimmic the behaviors of their environment. It's obvious that she does treat him the way he says and she is trying her damnest not to be exposed. He got that behavior from someone in their environment and this is the result. He's right. He is not a animal and neither is she so I suppose that is why they are both on Dr. Phil.

Children do mimic behavior but that does not mean he is mimicking his mother, He was acting like those dumb sh*ts of Jerry springer he could have gotten this behavior from anywhere. Kid needs his ass whipped, He even tried to lie to Dr Phil, the kid is a manipulator if my kid ever hit me, there they go to the orphanage XD they will learn more lessons there.

I would still be in a coma and a vegetative state for the rest of my natural born life if I slapped my mother like that. I, myself would be arrested had my child/children hit me like that. The camera crew couldn't get to me in that room quick enough before I knocked the hell outta one of my kids. They would have seen the future after that slap. And no way in hell would any of them be speaking to me like that. He is truly the poster child for birth control, but he is his mothers problem she created that monster.

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE NOT PARENTS WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND. MY DAUGHTER TRYS TO GET FRISKY WITH ME ALL THE TIME. BECAUSE THATS HOW HER FATHER RAISED HER...BUT BEST BELIEVE I TASKS THAT ASS IN A HEART BEAT. WE ARE THE PARENTS, THE MOTHER AND THE FATHER...THERFORE WE ARE TO GET RESPECT. THEY LEARN FROM US, GOD FOR BID MY DAUGHTER HAVING KIDS OF HER OWN AND LETTING THEM RUN ALL OVER HER.I SEE THAT sh*t IN A LOT "WHITE" COMMUNITIES. I WOULD HAVE WOOPED HIS ASS, NO HESITATION.

I agree with you 100%

NEEDS HIS LITTLE PUNK ASS KICKED AND BEAT....AND YOU CAN CALL THE POLICE IF YOU WANT TO!!!THERE IS NO WAY IN HELL ON EARTH WOULD I HAVE DONE SUCH A THING TO MY MOTHER...I WOULD HAVE DAMN NEAR BEEN MURDERED BY HER FIRST OF ALL, AND EVERY FAMILY MEMBER AND PERSON IN MY "COMMUNITY" WOULD HAVE ASSISTED HER...WOW, I'M SPEECHLESS, BUT IT STARTS WITH THE PARENTS....NOT MUCH MORE TO SAY ABOUT THIS ONE...WOW!

there should be no kids out there like this little boy, if it's uncontrolable now, just imagine when he's older and what he could do. Take him into a room take the belt out and use it. Punish or take away everything he wants, you need to get across to him yesterday!!!!

Yes. Blister his bare ass with that belt until he literally can't sit down!

I know that's right!!!

This child is a good example of how children behave when corpal punishment has not been used in the up bringing. Even the Bible states that to spare the rod is to spoil the child. I don't mean abuse, but, proper discipline should be adminsistered when the behavior warrants it. I was spanked as a child and when I became an adult, I thanked my parents for loving me and teaching me by proper discipline. This young boy did not have respect for his Mother and she missed the boat long ago when he was younger and more easily taught. It will be much harder now that this bad attitude kid has gotten away with so much wrong doing.

He would have never got the first shut up out. Because soon as he raised his voice at me in the beginning of the conversation, his little ass would have been leaking all over the floor. I don't believe in a child talking back to an elder person. And if I came across one doing so, I believe I have the right to slap the sh*t out of the parent, lol. So all that's said is that we need to put more rules down and let the child know that even though you may feel a certain way, we talk it out calmly, not screaming and hitting, and that goes for anyone. And this situation with this child slapping his mom, or even acting out the elbow lick was out of line.

I am not for slapping parents, but neither I am for physically hurting our kids. Discilpine is a hard thing to learn for both kids and adults just at different levels. How would you like to be an adult and be slapped just b/c u forgot to pay a bill, or did not work out or made the bed. At that age we can take tv aay, or the room door, or sweet treats, or games time w friends etc.

RESPECT MY FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS NEEDS TO BE DISPLAYED AT EVERY AGE FOR EVERY AGE.

If he knows how to slap , he learned it from his slapping mama!

They need to have a good talk and compromise on respecting e/o and he kid to behave.

one last thing:

CONDOMS USE THEM!

I don't care if a parent slaps an unruly out of control child that is not an excuse for a child to be let go to tell a parent to shut up or to slap a parent across the face. This boy better be glad he didn't have me for a mother or he would have been eating the carpet when he slaped me across the face. This mother did not deserve this type of treatment. This boy is headed for trouble. He is a bully and someone is going to give him what he deserves if he doesn't stop.

I am not for slapping parents, but neither I am for physically hurting our kids. Discilpine is a hard thing to learn for both kids and adults just at different levels. How would you like to be an adult and be slapped just b/c u forgot to pay a bill, or did not work out or made the bed. At that age we can take tv aay, or the room door, or sweet treats, or games time w friends etc.

RESPECT MY FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS NEEDS TO BE DISPLAYED AT EVERY AGE FOR EVERY AGE.

If he knows how to slap , he learned it from his slapping mama!

They need to have a good talk and compromise on respecting e/o and he kid to behave.

one last thing:

CONDOMS USE THEM!

Okay, the first time he interrupted me by screaming "I didn't jab you!" whould have been the end of that conversation as the back of my hand would have been across his mouth! We would not have continued that conversation until he could show the respect required to have that conversation. I don't understand what's wrong with parents my age who have kids the age of this boy. I know that the parents were raised better because when we were kids, we DID NOT talk to our parents like this and I will NOT allow my boys to talk to me this way. Yes, I am more lienent with my boys than my parents were with me on some things, but I will not tollerate disrespect to me or anyone else! This also includes your environment, peers and material goods, not just elders. Why do kids at a baseball park, THEIR ballpark, think it's okay to throw their trash on the ground? tear up equipment? disface buildings? No one tells them any different when they do it. They must assume someone else will take care of it...not my problem. My oldest son is in middle school (8th gr this fall) and I'm on the PTO so I'm around large groups of this age group of kids a lot and I have never seen such disrespect on such a large scale in my life. Parents who do not keep close watch on their kids school work and social life should be ashamed of the way their children act in public...I'll bet they would be shocked to know how they actually act and treat others. But back to the clip, this boy needs help with his anger and a good lesson in respect for his parents and other adults as well as peers (or a good can of whoop-ass!) and the Mom should have put her foot in his ass a long time ago...she won't be able to change this situation with out some outside help at this point...he's too old now. Good luck with that Lady!

I would kill himmmmmm!!!!!!

Needless to say, I agree with you 100%!! Although I can understand a parent keeping their cool, the point is that the Rod has been spared...now, it's just time for the Rod to be implemented by any means necessary...I'm not talking an eye for an eye, I'm just speaking about plain ol' fashion discipline at best!

I live in Birmingham but my hand would have traveled from St. Louis to bust that little bastard in his jaw...

im sorry but i am with you on this ACS would have been knocking on my door because it aint time out its time is the f#@$#@k up cause i GOING TO WHOOP i mean whoop his ass 4real its not a gmae
thanks to society we are not allowe to hit our kids thats why theses kids think they can do what they want and get away with IT by the threat im gonna call the popo but sh*t i will whoop my kids in a newyork minute and tell them while your at it call the ambulance to cause thats where your going to be beat and dont care what the consiquinces are

If he was son I would have beat his ass. He would have not been telling me to shut up and slapped my face, when I feed him, and pay the bills.When I got done with him he would have never told me to shut up and raised his hand at me again.

They would have still been trying to get me off his azz. There is NO way on earth or in this life would I allow my child, someone I birthed slap me, tell me to shut and get a way with it.

I WOULD HAVE WHOOPED HIS AZZZ ON NATIONAL TV!!!!! I WISH ONE OF MY KIDS WOULD....

Since I am the mom, provide food, clothing and everything else they need, then yeah...I'm the BIGGEST MF'ing BOSS in my house!!!!

Little brat, needs to be kicked a few more times.

My mouth is still wide open.. his posture was all wrong.. forget the slap he would of had to correct his posture.. He would of never made it to that point.. Oh my God what else dose he beat him mother now.. Pray for them both.. One~Love

I would have snatched his ass up so fast he wouldn't have even known what hit his ass. The one thing you never do to your parents is try to raise your hand at them, because if you did you lost your arm, because parents in my day growing up did not play, and this was in the late 70's to 80's.

Back in my day, I would have had false teeth at age 10 and lispe when I talked after that one.

My sentiments exactly! I love my child, but he'd have to go before I'd live with that kind of foolishness!

Man let me say this the bible says that if you spare the rod-you spoil the child. As a young father of two boys that is as so many have said unacceptable. To those who congratulate of the mother being cool-well what it lets me know is that this isn't the first time. Sounds a lot like domestic abuse. I agree that you should never go word for word with a child in either play nor reality. Parents these days want to be friends with their children, there is no being both. Most don't understand the meaning to be a parent-a guide in this world not the best friend. Draw the line, you have a whole other relationship to build with your significant other that you don't spend the same amount of time and energy with-attempting to appease the kids. But, if you don't believe me, continue to let the government and authorities tell you how to raise your kids, and watch that same system lock them up and allow a civil suit be levied against you for some wrongful act your child did.

Ty Legend

these people need GOD. Pray for them.

This is learned behavior. When you start hitting/spanking your children, they will eventually hit others, if not you. (Or, let out their aggression another way...)
Kat

This kind of attitude is not acceptable. He is one of those dysfunctional children that will lock his mother up and take her Social Security Check! This kind of behavior must had started at an early age. Spare the rod and spoil the child!

Oh my I'm shaking just watching this little demon boy talk to that crazy woman who obviously is not his mother

There is more to this than you can see in three minutes... that kid had a LOT of pent up frustration... his sister died 3 years before and his mother kinda shut down and checked out as a parent. she also resented him because he lived. where I agree that he does not have the right to put his hands on another human being, you have to know the WHOLE story before making judgement calls... he told the show that his mother does exactly what he did to her ALL the time and he wanted her to know what it felt like. when you grow up in abuse (no matter what kind) you perpetuate it... this is a sad example of what happens when you dont know how to parent...

Oh yeah... There's no doubt in my mind that this kid will end up in jail before he hits 21. Its the parents fault and the mother deserved to be slapped. Maybe not by her own son, because that is flat out disrespectful, but she needed that reality check! I didnt see the whole episode, but where the hell is dad? Im 99.99% positive that the father openly argues with the mother right in front of this kid -- or maybe even beats her. The kid had to get his temperment from somewhere, and the way he disrespected his mom seemed like a daily occurance. He knows that there will be little to no repercussions stemming from his actions... Personally, I would whip his ***, but I'm sure that even a whoopin cant change this kid. At this point, no one can change his ways. He needs to make the change himself, and I fear that by the time he realizes that he needs to make that change, he will already be in jail... I hope I am wrong. Damn shame too, this kid seems VERY intelligent. I wish them luck...

- Dr. Sean

She is Sooooooooo stupid for letting this little mentally ill child-man continue with his ways. He has no empathy and he is probably a socio-path. This little fool is hurting and his mother probably treats him like her man and thats why he has so much adult-like domination qualities. He
is tainted in more ways than we can imagine. It's mostly her fault that he is like that. She should sign his little butt up for some bootcamp training or else he will grow up t be an abuser or worse a mass murderer.
The child is acting more like the adult, he even knows that he is better off living with someone else besides his mother. This mother has psychological problems that she has passed on to the child. She's a sneaky ***** trying to let the world think she is an abused person! If she keep's it up, then the child will grow to hate her and she will become the abused one. Because she is permitting his abuse now, even when she can take control of the child, she behaves like a passive lamb, waiting to be slaughtered. This tormented child will do exactly that, at the first opportunity he gets. He probably has seen his dad modeling this behavior towards the mom. She was probably a batttered wife and now she is allowing herself to be an abused and battered parent.

She is Sooooooooo stupid for letting this little mentally ill child-man continue with his ways. He has no empathy and he is probably a socio-path. This little fool is hurting and his mother probably treats him like her man and thats why he has so much adult-like domination qualities. He
is tainted in more ways than we can imagine. It's mostly her fault that he is like that. She should sign his little butt up for some bootcamp training or else he will grow up t be an abuser or worse a mass murderer.
The child is acting more like the adult, he even knows that he is better off living with someone else besides his mother. This mother has psychological problems that she has passed on to the child. She's a sneaky ***** trying to let the world think she is an abused person! If she keep's it up, then the child will grow to hate her and she will become the abused one. Because she is permitting his abuse now, even when she can take control of the child, she behaves like a passive lamb, waiting to be slaughtered. This tormented child will do exactly that, at the first opportunity he gets. He probably has seen his dad modeling this behavior towards the mom. She was probably a batttered wife and now she is allowing herself to be an abused and battered parent.

Wooooorrrrrddd!! Where's Madea?

OMG, THAT COULD NOT HAVE BEEN ME!!!!!!I WOULD BE IN JAIL. I THINK I NEED A DRINK!!! THAT IS JUST TOOOOOO MUCH. I CAN'T DEAL WITH IT.

Today's generation is weaker and wiser. We are living in the last days when the bible speaks of mothers against daughters, sons against fathers, etc. This child has been allowed to control his situation far too long without any discipline for his actions, yes the bottom line is I would definitely be locked up now. As my mother always said, I brought you into this world and I'll take you out of it. He defies authority and will likely be locked up if his mother doesn't start putting her foot down.

I'm right there with you, I would definitely be locked up because he would have probably swallowed all of his teeth after I slapped the sh*t out of his ass. These kids today are crazy and have no respect for adults. I bet she bus her ass everyday so he can have his room decked out with all kinds of crap. I am getting mad just typing, my kids know, the only place their allowed to raise a hand is in the classroom.

Man, that little kid lays a trap. He stays quiet, letting the awkward silence build, all the while plotting to destroy his mom. The second she starts to talk he pounces. He was planning it the whole time. Effing hilarious. I have got to buy this kid a beer.

What's wrong with this is that the mother should have whooped that ass along time ago. Thank you JESUS that none of my 4 children EVER thought they were ever that grown to even entain the thought of putting their hands on me. I would be waiting for the police to come say " yes office i did kill my child for putting his or her hands on me"

If my son would have tryed that his ass would have been knock out and in Jail

This kidd need an ASS whipping...

Yes,my mother would have dropped me harder than a ton of bricks.

Very disrepectful and rude child.I hope he gets the help he needs because its obvious that one day he's going to do that to the wrong person.

She needs Mother of the year award for patience and perserverence.Under the circumstances,most would have floored him yet alone go to Dr Phill for help.She is trying to give this guy coping skills and a future.He;s only a Kid though a bit of tough love might just save him.

Ugh....hope he snaps out of it before its too late.

Just watching this video gets my blood pressure up! The main problem is that the Mom is speaking with her son as if he's her equal. I would have smacked him until my arm got tired. I can't imagine any of my kids raising their voice like that, and they're grown with families of their own.

WOO HOO THE MOM GOT WAT SHE DESERVED THAT ***** GOT BEAT IM PROUD OF U BOY

In that case, you are a horrible mother. Rot in Hell.

What a sad video. A child slapping his mother. She should have slapped him right back. Took him by the hair, drop kicked him and double slapped his face. There is no excuse for a child to hit his/her mother. You just dont do it.

damn right, im with u

lol...... im on the kids side. She asked for it.

When my parents used violence on me in my early teens I waited. My pops was a lame boozer abuser; I was about 16 when I had my growth spurt. Got to about 16olbs, which was enough. Thats when I alerted them that this wasn't 1950 and to prepare for justice by humanity,(i) as the local law enforcement condoned corporal punishment, even in the form of closed-fist facial contact. My mom never touched me, but I kept track of the amount of physical damage done by the "parental unit", doubled it, and delivered justice to my parents. It is YOU, babyboomers who need disciplining.
Now I'm turning 27 in a few months, have my law degree that my daddy paid for, have an awesome relationship with both of my parents, one based on mutual respect and redefined standards of "humanity",(taught to the parents by the child) AND I'm coming with a fiery vengeance after SOME of you guys! :-D There is a population from my generation coming, armed with higher education credentials then most of you, to help push a child empowerment movement through state laws. Poor momma. Love you so much But you needed to be taught that in the NEW generation, those who sit by and enable violence in family households will be punished too. I accepted my consequences from the state, of course (which were all expunged on my 18th birthday.)
Part of this legislation will be that when that kid started mouthing off in the first place, he would be in violation of certain state laws.
The Parents of the babyboomer generation have failed like a bunch of floundering hippies. Divorce rates are despicable you sicko's. THE LAW will be assisting the descendants of the EPIC FAIL generation.(same one that bankrupted our great America.) Kid yells? Can't handle verbal diplomatic authority? Call the cops. Kid hits you?? Call the cops. "Tough Guy Commenter slaps little johnny?" Sheriff Joe's can bring you a nice hefty citation. Every. Single. Time. Start paying of the debt weak elders.
-For all you subjective, middle class fools, with your emotionally charged "I'd slap his face off" comments. Remember your old and gray now. The "eminem" generation has obtained their law degrees, and just like those filthy Little Rock 9 protesters, you too will be remembered by U.S. as the Old, the withering... The Anti-progressionists.
I just hope my kids are obedient for karma's sake hahaha!

i see anonymous didnt even care to leave his name posted on 6/18/2010.. well i'm 38, 10 years older than u and let me tell u my mom beat me and my sisters and the so called cops didnt do sh*t about it, we just shut up and bidded our time til we was old enough to move out. well guess what?? i thought i'd raise my daughter better than i was raised. i hardly ever whipped her, gave her all types of material things which i had none when i was growing up, showed her uncondictional love and she thought after that when she got older that i owe it to her to continue to take care of her. she started running her mouth at me one day cursing saying all kinds of things and i politely told her to get out and she said tried to play a guilt trip on me saying i was like her aunt if i kicked her out! this girl is 5 years younger than u. she has learned nothing by the teachings and love i have given her. she's called her step-dad a "paycheck" dad at the age of fourteen and he took care of her at the early age of two til she was seventeen. well let me tell u her mouth and disrespect got so out of control when she was 17 i told her well if your unhappy then i'm going to send you to your "real" dads house, by the way he never did a damn thing for her, but she raised her grades in the final year of highschool because he gave her the freedom to smoke weed and drink beer and do what she was not allowed to do hear. but guess what they put the demandes on her to get a better job one day or she'd have to move out, she chose to move in with her boyfriend. see she wasnt happy leaving my house either. she dont know what happiness is.... guess what? after her being out in the "real" world for 2 years paying her own bills she realized that she could no longer make it and moved back in with the so called "*****" mom and "paycheck" dad and is doing no a damn thing with her life..the only thing she accomplished is graduating high school..she is living off of us and smoking weed with her boyfriend and hiding in her bedroom all day long. but u know what when my other 2 kids start school this august i'm telling her she's got to get a job and save to get a car and eventually get out because u know what she gives us no respect and the very ones that was never there for her the first 17 years of her life she gives them respect so sadly i say "f**k her" with her f**ked up attitude towards me, she needs tuff love and that i will give a 21 y/o which should already be taking care of herself by now. so long story short" i should have beat her ass when she started acted up when she began her teenage years.. I really dont think there's a happy medium there, you can only do the best you can do as a parent and i'd say i learned a lot!!

Where do you get sexual abuse from? Kids these days are just too grown for there own good, they think they know and deserve everything. She probably didn't discipline him when he was younger, and now he is out of control. My mother would have told me to get out and find my own way since, I thought I knew better than she. This is so ridiculous, because stuff like this happens all the time. I have two children and I REFUSE to argue with them. I am the adult that pays the bills therefore, what I say goes, point blank period.

why do you jump to sexual abuse. GOD MORON....it could be other things. People like you make people in this world paranoid. I hope you don't have children.

What a srtange response where would you get sexual abuse? There are no signs of that what so ever. I think that boy is a mess and he needs to be taught what boundaries are. He needs respect and a true understanding of who his parent is. HE NEEDS HIS ASS WHOOPED WITH A NICE SWITCH BRAID....WHOA

The mother child situation is sad, but i think your comment is also sad. there are so many comments you could have made, but you lost your creditability when you claimed sexual abuse. I'm afraid if that is your only thoughts and comments, you might just need some counseling yourself. if you are a sexually abused person please seek help.

When ever the world sit back and laugh at such an abomination we are in trouble. The world is confused. Now that we have totally rejected Christ our children are rejecting us. These type demons have to be cast out.

Your probably right. Something other than a usless parent is at fault here. For a child to harness that kind of rage he was either abused or has seen his worthless dad strike his mom. In either case it's not appropriate.

The way he was begging to stay with anyone else suggests a really poor home life and a possible abusive situation.

On the other hand if this kid is just a huge bratt he needs his hide tanned!

My Mother and Father both used corporal punishment on me when I messed up bad enough to deserve it and you know what I wouldn't have it any other way!

Sexual abuse? Ok, how long has the son been sexually abusing his mother?

HILARIOUS!!

Very Hilarious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She's stupid. And she must've wanted to get her ass slapped! Because there is no way ever... an 11 year old would have the thought of raising his hand at me and still live to see this video!! I would have been the next case on Court TV...

This is a mess. I would have to kick my child's butt. She brought that child in the world not the other way around. Man, to believe these messed up, overly aggressive children are going to be the people that take care of my generation. I totally agree with you.

As a black women I would normally say whip his butt; but because of the pain that is in the voice and eyes of the little boy, that tells me that his mother is not a listener but constantly yells and slaps. He only slapped her to show her how it feels when a person that you love constantly tells you to shut up and then slaps. There is also more things going on with the mom. I didn't see a father so I will assume that she is not married, overworked, tired and frustrated or a combination of several things.

Amen! Amen! Amen! You are exactly right! I am a public school teacher and I have 2 children at home (divorced mom). That word of advice goes for both places. Adults should not engage in verbal altercations with children. It only escalates the situation and provokes children 'cause you end up getting upset and saying something you shouldn't say. As for my own children, I'm going to hit them if they continue to talk after I say to be quiet. As for the school, I send a student out of my room, if he/she feels grown enough to talk back to me. I have little tolerance for disrespect from children. I love your last statement because I feel the same exact way. I could not have been on Dr. Phil's show at that time. They'd have been hauling my child off to the hospital and me off to jail!

Can't anyone see that this boy's mother is much at fault here?
She obviously failed in dicipline. The son is screaming to be given a chance to explain to her, her unfairness. And she incenses him further, by talking over his protests. I think the slap was a last resort by him to be heard. I don't think there was any malicious intent in that. It was the only way to explain to her how much she hurt his feelings. Obviously, the child has endured abuse, by an absent-minded poke or slap, when the mother doesn't want to be bothered.

Flat out, no African-American parent would ever let their child raise their voice like that and even have this debate, less known, put their hands on them. Sad to say, White people let their kids do this kind of crap all the time. They think they're giving their child respect and freedom. What they're doing is letting them develop into arrogant, disrespectful whack jobs.

You are sure right! Then I would have punched him in his stomach too! When he did get up out of his hospital bed I would have been getting paroled!

I agree I would never let a child feel that they are have the option to talk to me as if we were peers. The first shut up would have been a wrap let alone the slap in the face. There would be no way I would have refrained from busting his ass. I would have said "cameras off" then all hell would have broke loose.

OK you said that!

Ditto!!! My boys would never have thought about it. It is all how you raise your children. I don't believe in spare the rod, spoil the child. I spoiled my boys, but they got the rod also.

TPJ of CT.

Admire????? You are the nutty one. This video would have been another 5 minutes longer because I would have to be restrained from seriously hurting that child. Is she afraid of him? He will be kicking her butt in a very short time-- maybe even now. Since he knows he can get away with slapping her (in public no less), the next aggression will be even more devastating -- for her, not him.

Mary

What, are you crazy? There is no way in hell I will sit there and let my son smack me and I sit there and restrain myself. I would have grabbed his arm and tell him if he ever lifted his hand to me again I would break his arm! I have 8 children ages 4 - 17, they would never in million years think of putting a hand on me. And when you let your children put a hand on you once, they will do it again. I have never hit my children, so I would expect the same respect back.

My father always told us, and I am one of 8 kids myself, he said the same hand you use to put a hand on one of your parents, you will never use that hand again.

I don't admire her for not hitting him back, that's why he talks to her and treats her like that because she does not whip him. There is a difference between beatin and discpline, and she does neither one. I would've had the belt to his butt in a split second or if he wants to be grown treat him like that and beat his ass.

I WISH MY KID WOULD!!!!!!!!!!!!

naw she should have knocked his ass out since he wanna act like he grown beat that ass like he grown!!!!11

Restraint? Admiration? Show some restraint when this lil' malfeasant is dating your daughter, pushing your mother down the hallway in a nursing home, or smothering babies in a nursery because they cry too loud. This is clearly a case of reform school, child protective services, or a juvenile detention center that guarantees OLD FASHIONED DISCIPLINE. Its not his fault he is the way he is. She's guilty of criminal neglect. Nevertheless and unfortunately - he has to pay the price. Restraint? I got your restraint and admiration - right here in a bag of rocks upside his head.

Are you serious? Discipline is not restraint. If that were so, then prisoners would be on the streets and we would have some serious issues. (More than what we have now) This needs to be dealt with and emotionalism has nothing to do with discipline. I sure hope you don't have children, because your restraint is going to get your ass whipped.....by your child!

I like your answer and thought of reason you were able to
disern both sides. It's clear to see what happens with a
child left without discipline from the start. a very
big problem in our society, leaves us to seriously wonder
what the future holds for such individuals as this.

This person is stupid. As a mother you lead by example, but when he raised his hand and slapped her, I would have slapped the hell out of him. The example would be to show this child if you do this to someone else, then this will be your result. This child has no respect for his parents and if he needs another place to stay and thinks he's getting bad treatment at home...then send him to me. There is no talking back when someone in authority asks or tells you something and it's not subject to debate. If he got away with it once...he'll do it again. To even explain to this child why she said no is unthinkable. Explaining, for example, why he needs to go to school or clean his room might warrant an explaination, but when a mother says no to a request, no means no. And there are some of you who wonder why these children grow up and kill their parents. Too much authority taken from the parents and children thinking they can't be touched.If this is not corrected the police or his peers will correct him later.

that was her first mistake, in calling him dude, she probably thought she could talk to him like his friends do and out the window went his respect for her as an adult.

Go girl I am there with ya.

I agree. Old fashioned butt whipping, bare ass with water on his butt for extra sting, use a wooden paddle with holes drilled in it or a leather belt, maybe a peach tree switch. Do it whenever he gets out of line. He should have had his bare ass torn up in front of the entire audience.

In my HOUSE, the child would be executed!! lol

where are you from?

that's a shame. It's the way she raised him. the Bible says "to honor thy mother and father". Do they teach their children those morals? I wonder

Boot camp is not an option this child need a boot on his AZZZZZZ. This kid has been hitting this mom for a long time.

Correction, The World would not have hated you . . . trust me!

Hell-Ya, Ya-Dang Wight about that one!

I have to co-sign on that one.

you got that right "girlfriend or brother!" that is unacceptable behavior. he thinks he is equal to his mom and somehow she has helped create such an impression.(maybe unknowingly...) What about a few years from now when he is taller and bigger..I promise you he WILL beat her ass.....

amen to that my sista!!! I have 3 sons who are teenagers and I let them see this video and they all looked at each other and was like Mommy would kick our "you know what"!!!

YOU GOT THAT sh*t RIGHT! ALL I HAVE TO DO IS LOOK AT MY KIDS AND THEY KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS...HOLLA!!!!

I Agree! NO matter what you do not put your hands on the one who brought you into this world, because they are the same ones who can take you out of here.

He wouldn't be waken' up from the coma because if he did, the rest of the village would be there to knock him right back into another one.....MY SISTA.

lol absoulutly!!!! or mom in jail and him in the same condition as you described.

Amen...nothing else needs to be said my Sistah!!!

I agree wholeheartedly. If that kid was my son - They would have locked me up and had thrown away the key. No child of mine would have dared to even point his/her finger at me and tell me to shut up much less, slap me. HELLLLLLLL NO!

we really dont know how this kid is treated like at home. Although it was wrong for him to slap her. I'am sure if she was'nt on tape she would've hit him back.. And maybe he did that because he know that she would'nt do anything back. I think this kid's is calling out for help.. Never know what goes on behind close doors at there house!

I agree

So her calling her son a dude is parental abuse, but you would have beat him instead? I don't understand.

I agree she is the reason he is like that. I need to slap her too. Cause she obviously is not in control and he just told her that in case she didn't know. I would be trying to get parole too but i don't think they would be considering me after what i would have done to him in that room.... better her than me. We need to pray more cause this world is coming to a bad end.

Although I don't agree with the way this CHILD is behaving, if you all would listen to what he's saying you would understand he's trying to get his "mother" to understand what upsets him. He is just mirroring how she treats him.
(Before you ask, yes I did raise a child and she's 29 now grown, on her own and living rather well in the LORD, and would have known better than to raise a hand to me, just as I know now not to raise my hand at my mother at 48 LOL holla.)
Anywho, he's not the only one who needs bootcamp, mother can use it herself too because if this child goes and she continues to treat him the same way she always has, all of the work this child has put in to become well will be done in vain because mom will still be in the same rut she's in now.

"The Bible talks about things like this in days like these."

The Bible is a load of sh*t.

The Bible talks about kids being disobedient to parents and other things that will be critical in these last days and this is just one of them that is listed @ 2 Timothy 3:1-5.

The bible also says spare the rod and spoil the child. This is a prime example of a spoiled brat the only punishment he has probably had is timeout, in his room, with the tv, dvds, wii game and so on. She needs to bust his butt empty out his room put him in there for a month slide his food under the door and only let him out to go to the bathroom, he wants to act like a bad ass criminal show him what a bad ass criminal life is like in prison.

I strongly agree with the comment below. But how is anybody going to know what the bible says, so MANY have gotten away from it. It also says "spoil the rod, spare the child". Self explanitory... When I was raised, we had the fear of God plus a parent that did not allow things like that. And would quote the "spoil the child" scripture"~lol
The world itself has lost its 1st love~ JESUS, and yes him being absent in even homes is the very reason why kids and parents act the way they do.

the Bible also talks about taking unruly children outside the gates and putting them to death, so as not to have unrulyness passed on to the next generations. not sure where its at, old testament somewhere. If anyone reading this knows, let us know.

Is anyone listening to the boy.. I agree his actions are out of control but he is trying to explain to his mother that he does not deserve to be hit by her and she continues to ignore him. It seems that the mother abuses him verbally and physically and he is only acting on what he knows!!

I would have walked away from this child and went to a Bailbondsmon. Given the bailbodsmon $500.00 and told him I would be needing it. I would have went home and whip this child's behind untill he sung the "National Anthem" backwards. Knowing this little chump, he woudld have called the police. I would have went , got out--come back and this time we would have been planning his funeral. This is a prime example of the result of when children are young and parents think everything they do is cute. WHIP YOUR CHILDRENS BEHINDS WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!

OH MY!!!! IF I SLAP MY MOM, I'D BE SIGNING MY OWN DEATH CERTIFICATE!!

Sweetie, I thought the same thing when I was your age. I still harbor some resentment towards my mother for the things she's done to me, but now I have a child of my own and am able to understand some of her reasoning. One day, when you have your own children you'll realize that your job as a parent is to protect your child above all else. Perhaps you will take what you've learned from your parents actions and choose to change how you respond to your own child like I've done. I hate punishing my child, but once I've told him numerous times not to do something that may hurt him and he still continues to do it I am forced to spank him. This teaches him that there are consequences for his actions. However, the spanking is a far lesser consequence than what could potentially happen from a fall down the stairs or from him running out into the street. Children look to their parents for guidance in what is right and wrong. The mother in this situation was apparently trying to prevent her son from having an aggressive emotional outburst on an airplane so that he would avoid being taken into custody for such conduct. Perhaps his aggression may very well come from the way his mother treats him, but his mother is the one responsible for his safety and well-being. This does not give her any right to be aggressive towards him, but as a child he also has no right to be aggressive towards her or anyone else for that matter. Children typically learn by example, which is why you must be very careful about how you act in front of your children. Just remember to respond to your children out of love. Offer praise where praise is due and punishment when it is required for safety. Never act out of emotion. And always explain to your children why they received the response that they did. Hopefully this helps. And don't forget, not all adults are worth hating. God bless!

~ 26yo Mommy of One

Baby I'm so sorry you're going through what your going through at home. Stay respectful and keep God first. One day you'll have kids of your own and when that day come take the good and bad for what its worth. Learn from the things you disagree with and I pray you'll become a better parent then your own.
God Bless You,

you are wise beyond your years.

do you like the band Crass?

I understand what you're saying, especially from a 16-year-olds standpoint b/c I was 16 once too. The issue I had with my mother is that she didn't listen, however, she raised single-handedly 3 beautitful (now grown) women/mothers. I was REBELLIOUS, HARD HEADED, SMART-MOUTHED & SKIPPED SCHOOL. Now that I'm a PARENT, I understand why my mom raised me the way she did. I do some things a little differently. I DO take the time to HEAR what my children are saying/feeling, but I still have the final say so. I do this b/c I care about how they feel, however, NOT AT MY EXPENSE EITHER. The other practice I try and do is apologize when I'm wrong to my kids. I think that shows them I'm HUMAN and I make mistakes too. Even though they are only 7 & 5, I definitely feel I have their respect and this will carry them through their teen years. My prayer for you is that you would always make good choices and hang around people SMARTER and WISER THAN YOU. You will definitel go far.

Sweetie, I sympathize with you. I only hope that you can be strong through it all and seek some type of counseling. It's not that child's fault that he's acting out this way, it's the parents fault. A child is a mirror only to his environment. This type of behavior doesn't just turn on and off like a light switch one day. Respect is a two-way street; you teach your child respect by BEING respectful. It's not always about spankings or discipline. I totally believe that if it's warranted, you should spank your child. However, that is not the answer for everything or every child. It's way too late in the game to result to spanking this child because #1 he's too old and too set in his ways, and #2 he has severe emotional issues that only a GOOD psychologist can help with. Unfortunately, there are many "mothers" out there lacking good parenting skills. I totally believe that it's a perpetual cycle. Maybe this "mother" had some issues growing up ... although, it's blatantly clear that she still does. The entire family needs counseling ASAP!!! Bottom line, SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NEVER BECOME PARENTS!!!!!!!

You are darn right Whatever I say goes because I'm THE PARENT. I'm RIGHT! Your feelings matter but not to the point where you'll get your way. I'M THE FINAL AUTHORITY! If you don't like it get out and get your own place!

Your kids won't be running away because they'll be running over you just like this kid. There is not abuse of power. Your a kid, the only right you have is the right to do what I say do and WHEN I say do it. Who do you think you are??? You're 16, you haven't even begun to live yet. You wouldn't have to run away, I'll open the door and put you out. You wouldn't last a week on the streets before you'll be begging to come home. Go out there in the world and see how you'll be treated.

I have a 16 year old and she knows she has to do what I say and that I am the wiser person. Her friends can't understand why she tells me everything and she tells them she values my opinion. She knows I'll never steer her wrong. My daughter and I have a great relationship. She and I get along like good friends but there's a limit because she's fully aware I'm her MOTHER first. So she knows there are boundaries on how she talks to me and what she can say.

Maybe if you would stop acting like your parents owe you something and that you should have an opinion maybe they would care and not be so angry.

You are a child. Therefore you haven't earned anything and your parents don't OWE you anything. What have you done to feel you can voice your opinion? Do you financially support your parents? Even if you did, you owe them that much because they raised you.

No family is perfect and once you step outside or yours you may have a rude awakening. I told my kids call DSS and report me. You can go into foster care but I guarantee you there's no place like home. Go and don't come back, that better be your final decision because I'm done!As long as you are under my roof I'm going to be your Azz and you're going to listen.

I can understand your frustrations. Oftentimes parenting methods are passed down from previous generations. Sometimes that's all a parent may know and think that there parenting methods are ok because that's the way their parents did it and so on. As a parent myself (of two) I came to the realization that my parenting skills needed improvement. I observed myself, prayed a lot, and studied the Scriptures. I humbled myself and allowed change to occur within me. One thing I learned was to admit to my daughters when I was wrong or fell short in my attitudes, methods, or even when it was revealed to me that I had given them incorrect advice. I wanted them to know that I love them very much and wanted what was best for them which required boundaries. And you are right, I had to develop patience and understanding to listen and hear what my children were saying from their perspective and learn to talk with each other and not at each other or in the passing - giving them my undivided attention. I let them know that I was not perfect and I made mistakes as a parent; but I was willing to learn and allow change for the better so we could have a good relationship with each other. Yes, it is important to have open communication without the parent fearing, getting angry or getting offended, and be able to communicate with love and in peace. I hope that your home situation will change for the better real soon! Be encouraged!

HEARTFELT CONCERN

To and like all parents fail to....

I am really sorry you feel that way, but I became a parent at 18 and at 10 years old my daughter knows it would be war time if she were to do what this little kid did! I did not like when I was disciplined by my parents either but it made me the person I am today. I hated to hear "because I said so." From my mother(may she rest in peace) but I understand where and why she said those things. I just wished she was here today to I can apologize to her again because now I know what she knew (smile).

No child has the view of the parent unless they become responsible parents themselves. Had this been me, after I gave my look and told her I am not asking you but telling you, that would have been it! My daughter would not have liked it but she would have obeyed. That's called starting from infantcy....you have to teach kids the difference in you and them from infantcy. My daughter said once you are not my friend and I said you are right I am not your friend I am your mother and once you get to be an adult and move out of my house and support yourself then we can be somewhat friends. My daughter said once she wanted to leave so I told her to leave in what she came into the world in......skin! Don't get me wrong she is a very good child but she has her days and it's a part of growing up that she must test me but it's my responsibility to insure that she learns the lessons that I have. I enjoy being a parent and I bust my butt for my children.

To comment about that little boy.....I would have seen only red and it would have taken swat to get him off of him!!!!

Sweetheart,
While you make a valid point, you have a lot of growing to do. I can tell from your remarks that you are 16, speking form a 16 year olds' perspective. Live long enough and have children and you won't sing the same song. And while you may think that you can predict the future by your comment that "when I have kids, they won't try and run away"(not word for word), don't make a vow over something that you won't have any control. Pray that God gives you the grace to be an excellent parent and learn from what your parents have done, but never say NEVER! You don't know what the future may hold. Be careful of what you speak agains't your parents. Check out Exodus. Be blessed sweetie and gain some wisdom from what the word of God has to say regarding parenting as well as the role of the child.

Easier said than done. I dont think you will truly understand your parents or realize how much they understand you until you become an adult. Please remember what goes around, comes around. Parents truly want to protect you from anything that may harm you, and they dont stop trying to protect you because you are older. Remember, they were young once and they to were trying to outsmart their parents. Its like playing your favorite game,you are an expert at it. But if you find someone who has never played, you dont let them make the same mistakes you did. You give them the cheat codes or tell them how to defeat the bad guy so they can live longer. Same things apply to parents and children.

Honey, you are 16 years old and have no idea what it is like to raise a child. Work all day, pay the bills on time, keep clothes on their backs, food in their bellies and a roof over their heads....all the while the kids are complaining about what they think they don't have. One day you will have kids, and then you will see. I have three kids, a boy-13, two girls-10 and 5. They do not disrespect me in public or at home. I can take them anywhere and they act like they have some sense. I do not threaten my kids to make them mind, they know what the rules are and they know what their boundaries are, if they cross those, they pay the penalty, whatever that may be. I do not beat my kids, but when they deserve a good spanking or grounding etc. they get it. I on the other hand raised my hand to my mom ONCE...I regret it and paid a HEAVY price for doing it. We are now great friends and I understand why she was the way she was when I was younger....you will too one day.

YOU have NO idea what you are talking about. There is no balance of authority between parents and kids. The parents are the authority, plain and simple. You don't believe me? Go out and try to do it all on your own. If you survive, good for you but I promise you'll have a very rude awakening to the real world and how it works.

Hopefully when you are old enough to have kids you'll be smart enough to realize you HAVE to excerise control over your kids or they will do nothing but act up. I have two girls and with my first I thought I would raise her different than my parent's did me because I didn't like it. NOW I am paying the price. She is a total brat, she won't shut up when she is told, talks back and won' do what I ask her to do. I have to literally yell and spank her behind to get her to do even the simple of things. My second child is a different story, I did the opposite and did things the way my parents did and she is SO MUCH MORE respectful, helpful and well behaved. She is 5 years old! My oldest is 9.

That mother was wrong only in she let that boy get as far as he did. He should have been quiet the first time she told him to. She IS the boss of him. Until you are a legal adult your parents are RESPONSIBLE for you and that does mean the BOSS. I'll be damned if I go to jail because a child of mine decides I'm not the boss of them and does whatever they want. No way.
At 16 you have no idea what parents go through. You may not like what is going on in your own home but you can't comment on a parent that is TRYING to bring up a child in this kind of society. In the old days he would have gotten his ass beaten. I think some kids need that. Younger generations are awful including the one your in. I cannot stand teenagers of this day and age and REFUSE to let my kids act like the kids do now.

I am a 32 year old, but I was very concerned when I read your statement. Unfortunately, there is no handbook for parenting. We have to learn as we go. The job of a parent is to teach their children to use good judgement and to be a good example for doing what is right. The problem with a lot of parents today is that they don't spend enough time with their kids but want to be respected. That is not fair to the child.

I don't know if you believe in God, but I pray that he gets you through your situation. Keep your head up.

You sound like a very troubled kid, please for your own sake seek some counseling.

first of all! im 17 and we have to realize that we do have to listen to our parents wheather we like it or not. if you dont like the way they treat you then get the hell out. i feel that if i have children in the near future and if they dont like the way i run my household then there is the damn door because they will not be held by chains, they dont run nothing!! we also have to realize that our parents are not suppose to be our friends. that is not their job. dont get me wrong, you should be able to speak to your parents to a certain extinct. but there is always a level and we children fail to realize that!.and second of all if that was my child i would have kicked his ass just by the way he was talking to me. my father always thinks about himself too! but my siblings and i know that he wants nothing but the best for us! i dont have the best parents but they are far from the worst. just because your parent try to disipline you and try to raise you the right way does not mean that they do not care about you. we need to stop being so snobby and spoiled and do what we are told. and if you dont like it...find a job and move the hell out. ITS THAT SIMPLE!!!!!!!!

Dear Sweet Sweet Heart:

I am sure that your parents have growing to do. Most of us do. There are not many people in the world who are perfect and know exactly how to deal with children, life, marriages, etc.

I disliked my mother for the very abusive and hands-off approached that she used. However, I never disrespected her even though she disrespected her responsibilities as my mother. (in my option.) This continued honor, that I showed her, granted me favor in the years to come. Through this I learned how to be a better parent for my own children. I also managed to take my anger/frustration and turn it into energy that would get me out of that situation, i.e. focusing on School, work, sports & music. Once I graduated High School, I realized that life is about learning and no one, not even me, could be perfect at it. My mother was not perfect at it and could never be. She did, what was done to her. She just didn't know any better. Now the ball is in my court for my children. When you learn better, you do better.

Don't be so hard on your parents. Just be excessively nice, do your work, and look forward to the day when you can have the opportunity to give to your children, what your parents can't give to you. Honor them, even when you feel invisable. God will see the goodness in you, and bless you for it.

I hope these words penitrate your heart and give you a glimsp into my life.

Much Love.

DeVo.

Child,

It is not that your parents are always necessarily right, but they definately have more life experience. Usually when they tell you something it's because they love you and want to keep you in the right path. If you came at someone on the street the way you probably talk to your parents, they would do more than scream at you. I listen to my daughter but I get the final say and whenever she feels like that isnt fair I will help her pack and see how far she fares on the street at 16. That kid would have been plastered to the wall and in a boys home if I was his mother because I'll be damned if I support a child and sacrifice the way most parents do to be slapped by a child.

ITZ FUNNY HOW ALL KIDS BLAME THEIR PARENTS...I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD GRANDSON HERE WITH ME....HE STAYED OUT ALL NIGHT....BROKE LOTS OF CURFEWS...PULLED STAIGHT F'S ON HIS REPORT CARD....STAYED SUSPENDED....SMOKED WEED IN THE HOUSE...BUT WHEN HIS PARENTS TRIED TO SET HIM STRAIGHT....AS YOU SAY THEY WERE ABUSING THEIR AUTHORITY...SOMETIMES YOU KIDS MAKE YOUR PARENTS GO ABOVE BOARD....I DONT PLAY THAT HERE...AND HE KNOWS IT...SO WHAT ARE YOU AS A YOUNG MAN DOIN TO TRY TO PUT A SMILE ON YOUR PARENTS FACE......HUHHHHHHHHHHH

SHUT UP!!!!!!!! I look to see you on a talk show getting slapped by your child.

First and only comment: The word is spelled "you", not u. R u 2 tired 2 type "you"? Take a nap, then try again. Then, and only then, will I even give credence to your comments and opinions.

She is a better MOM then me because I would have slapped him so hard that he would have been seeing stars. She was to much trying to be a nice Mother. No child of mind would have done that to me. He needs a good old fashion butt beating, with no clothes on. Let him see how that feels! That was so disrespectful of him doing that to his Mother, he is a brat of all brats... Who in the devil do he yhink he is!

This child was not bought up he just grew up. The bible says bring up a child in the way it should go. I say, this child was just allowed to be let go. He was given access to the adult world of authority and he does not know what to do with all of that power. The only solution at this age is to go to boot camp or an equivilant. The window of the parent(s)(where's dad?) to teach respect of adults has been closed. Now someone else is going to have to clean up the mess. God help him!

Oh my god he needs to thank GOD that I am not his mother like Bernie Mac says I will f@%k a kid up

First of all, there is no way in HELL one of my kids, and I raised 4 of them, would they EVER even THINK of speaking to me that way. They know that if they did, I'd first smack them in the mouth then I'd wash it out with soap!

This is what happens when parents let their kids be "themselves", when they dont punish when they are young, how in the hell do they expect it to work once they have minds of their own??? DUH? not a hard one to figure out!

That kid needs his ass whipped and repeatadly until the message is received!

And the mother needs parenting classes to learn how to get CONTROL of her deliquent son.

Honor his wish, let him live someplace else, put him in foster care and see if he likes it any better there.. freakin' BRAT! needs the sh*t slapped out of him!

I WOULD BE IN JAIL, CAUSE I WOULD FORGET I WAS HIS MOM AND BEAT HIM DOWN LIKE A STRANGER...D.RICKS RICHMOND, VA

I WOULD GIVE HIM AWAY ASAP. OTHERWISE, HE WOULD BE LAID OUT-A CHILD SLAPPING HIS MOTHER...OOOOOHHHHHH...
She did not raise him properly. He didn't just get this way...
STILL, if my child have the nerves to hit me, he would not be living in the same house with me.

Tell me how any MAN witnessing this on Dr phil's show, from Dr Phil to the camera crew to men in the audience could allow this to take place without grabbing his overgrown butt by his shirt collar and letting him know that you never treat anybody , especially a woman like this. If someone had grabbed his butt on national TV he would never attempt to do this again.

This is a bully with aggression problems. To inflict the pain on him that he inflicted on his mother at that time would have made him subjective and solved his problem. He will grow up to pull wings off bats and eat them. His behavior is similar to Jeffrey Domer. This started when he witness another male taking control over his mom. It is a learned behavior.

Yes!!!! DEATH!!!!!! Something she should have beat him to.

Where is the Father? Single moms just don't get it - you need the help & balance a father can provide. And if the guy was such a jerk/loser you couldn't stay together, why did you have unprotected sex with him and make kids?

In this situation, it's a lot later than we think. This child has had his own way since birth. He has gotten away with saying and doing what he wants. A child should be trained up in the way he should go and to honor his mother and father. This kid acts like he's the adult and clearly discipline was not on the "To Do" list. There is an old saying in my culture
that if you don't spank a child when he is little, he'll spank
you when he is older....case in point.