amen to that my sista!!! I have 3 sons who are teenagers and I let them see this video and they all looked at each other and was like Mommy would kick our "you know what"!!!
YOU GOT THAT sh*t RIGHT! ALL I HAVE TO DO IS LOOK AT MY KIDS AND THEY KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS...HOLLA!!!!
I Agree! NO matter what you do not put your hands on the one who brought you into this world, because they are the same ones who can take you out of here.
He wouldn't be waken' up from the coma because if he did, the rest of the village would be there to knock him right back into another one.....MY SISTA.
lol absoulutly!!!! or mom in jail and him in the same condition as you described.
Amen...nothing else needs to be said my Sistah!!!
I agree wholeheartedly. If that kid was my son - They would have locked me up and had thrown away the key. No child of mine would have dared to even point his/her finger at me and tell me to shut up much less, slap me. HELLLLLLLL NO!
Lord have MERCY, is all I have to say !!!!
I WOULDA POP, KNOCK AND DROPPED HIM.
we really dont know how this kid is treated like at home. Although it was wrong for him to slap her. I'am sure if she was'nt on tape she would've hit him back.. And maybe he did that because he know that she would'nt do anything back. I think this kid's is calling out for help.. Never know what goes on behind close doors at there house!
what day did this show air, I need to see the whole thing?
Where's this kid's father
MAN, this is unacceptable....I believe children should speak their minds to their parents, but that kid controlled too much of that argument....He went overboard when he slapped his moms, that was an ass whuppipng had it been in my house....or near death....
From what I saw this mother is certainly fed up to call her son dude. She loves her son but this is definately perental abuse.As a parent you need to know when to be a mother and when to be a friend to your children. Some people believe that they should share every thing with their children and the child see it as if that she is his buddy. She should not have continued with the conversation when she saw that he was getting out of control she should have said what she wanted to say and walked away and tell him that until he learns to speak nicely he would have to write what he wants to discuss and they should go through it together and not be afraid to be the adult,mother and parent.My mother spoke to us with her eyes we just have to look at her and we knew exactly how she feels about what we were doing. In this case he was going to be out of my house immediately after getting a good ass whipping. That definately would of been the last slap he ever gave not even to a mosquito.
So her calling her son a dude is parental abuse, but you would have beat him instead? I don't understand.
I applaud that mother for staying calm and not knocking him backwards out of that chair. He seems to think that he can do whatever his mother does; somewhere the boundary lines were not clearly defined and I hate to say it, but I blame his parents for that. Her son seriously needs anger management and an occassional butt whipping. If he doesn't get help, I will not be surprised if at some point in his life he kills someone in a rage; maybe his mother.
I don't applaud her, because she allows him to do this and this is why he's slapping her.... all I can say is thank God he's not my child because I wouldn't be commenting on this I would be trying to get parole for whipping his but!
I agree she is the reason he is like that. I need to slap her too. Cause she obviously is not in control and he just told her that in case she didn't know. I would be trying to get parole too but i don't think they would be considering me after what i would have done to him in that room.... better her than me. We need to pray more cause this world is coming to a bad end.
Although I don't agree with the way this CHILD is behaving, if you all would listen to what he's saying you would understand he's trying to get his "mother" to understand what upsets him. He is just mirroring how she treats him.
(Before you ask, yes I did raise a child and she's 29 now grown, on her own and living rather well in the LORD, and would have known better than to raise a hand to me, just as I know now not to raise my hand at my mother at 48 LOL holla.)
Anywho, he's not the only one who needs bootcamp, mother can use it herself too because if this child goes and she continues to treat him the same way she always has, all of the work this child has put in to become well will be done in vain because mom will still be in the same rut she's in now.
The Bible talks about things like this in days like these.
"The Bible talks about things like this in days like these."
The Bible is a load of sh*t.
The Bible talks about kids being disobedient to parents and other things that will be critical in these last days and this is just one of them that is listed @ 2 Timothy 3:1-5.
The bible also says spare the rod and spoil the child. This is a prime example of a spoiled brat the only punishment he has probably had is timeout, in his room, with the tv, dvds, wii game and so on. She needs to bust his butt empty out his room put him in there for a month slide his food under the door and only let him out to go to the bathroom, he wants to act like a bad ass criminal show him what a bad ass criminal life is like in prison.
I strongly agree with the comment below. But how is anybody going to know what the bible says, so MANY have gotten away from it. It also says "spoil the rod, spare the child". Self explanitory... When I was raised, we had the fear of God plus a parent that did not allow things like that. And would quote the "spoil the child" scripture"~lol
The world itself has lost its 1st love~ JESUS, and yes him being absent in even homes is the very reason why kids and parents act the way they do.
the Bible also talks about taking unruly children outside the gates and putting them to death, so as not to have unrulyness passed on to the next generations. not sure where its at, old testament somewhere. If anyone reading this knows, let us know.
I really think this is sad. I really don't like hitting my child but come on. kids you fair/unfair like it's a weapon. What is upsetting is not the child but the parent.
Hit her again.
Is anyone listening to the boy.. I agree his actions are out of control but he is trying to explain to his mother that he does not deserve to be hit by her and she continues to ignore him. It seems that the mother abuses him verbally and physically and he is only acting on what he knows!!
I would have walked away from this child and went to a Bailbondsmon. Given the bailbodsmon $500.00 and told him I would be needing it. I would have went home and whip this child's behind untill he sung the "National Anthem" backwards. Knowing this little chump, he woudld have called the police. I would have went , got out--come back and this time we would have been planning his funeral. This is a prime example of the result of when children are young and parents think everything they do is cute. WHIP YOUR CHILDRENS BEHINDS WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!!!
OH MY!!!! IF I SLAP MY MOM, I'D BE SIGNING MY OWN DEATH CERTIFICATE!!
And like all parents fail to realize is that you do not know the balance of authority, respect and power toward your kids. All you do is abuse your power, in which my parents do a good job at it and im 16. Even tho what u do is wrong and u view it as being right its right? No it is not i personally hate adults because u feel like just because u are older whatever u say goes despite what your child thinks or would even have an opinion to try and talk it out about it. My daddy only thinks about himself and not even my own mother and my mother has an extreme anger problem so i do not like where i am. Yes, the child is wrong but so is the mother...When i have my own kids they wont be trying to run away and all this extreme stuff due to the incorrect parent that doesnt even spend time with their child, an acts like that dont even exist.
Sweetie, I thought the same thing when I was your age. I still harbor some resentment towards my mother for the things she's done to me, but now I have a child of my own and am able to understand some of her reasoning. One day, when you have your own children you'll realize that your job as a parent is to protect your child above all else. Perhaps you will take what you've learned from your parents actions and choose to change how you respond to your own child like I've done. I hate punishing my child, but once I've told him numerous times not to do something that may hurt him and he still continues to do it I am forced to spank him. This teaches him that there are consequences for his actions. However, the spanking is a far lesser consequence than what could potentially happen from a fall down the stairs or from him running out into the street. Children look to their parents for guidance in what is right and wrong. The mother in this situation was apparently trying to prevent her son from having an aggressive emotional outburst on an airplane so that he would avoid being taken into custody for such conduct. Perhaps his aggression may very well come from the way his mother treats him, but his mother is the one responsible for his safety and well-being. This does not give her any right to be aggressive towards him, but as a child he also has no right to be aggressive towards her or anyone else for that matter. Children typically learn by example, which is why you must be very careful about how you act in front of your children. Just remember to respond to your children out of love. Offer praise where praise is due and punishment when it is required for safety. Never act out of emotion. And always explain to your children why they received the response that they did. Hopefully this helps. And don't forget, not all adults are worth hating. God bless!
~ 26yo Mommy of One
Baby I'm so sorry you're going through what your going through at home. Stay respectful and keep God first. One day you'll have kids of your own and when that day come take the good and bad for what its worth. Learn from the things you disagree with and I pray you'll become a better parent then your own.
God Bless You,
you are wise beyond your years.
do you like the band Crass?
I understand what you're saying, especially from a 16-year-olds standpoint b/c I was 16 once too. The issue I had with my mother is that she didn't listen, however, she raised single-handedly 3 beautitful (now grown) women/mothers. I was REBELLIOUS, HARD HEADED, SMART-MOUTHED & SKIPPED SCHOOL. Now that I'm a PARENT, I understand why my mom raised me the way she did. I do some things a little differently. I DO take the time to HEAR what my children are saying/feeling, but I still have the final say so. I do this b/c I care about how they feel, however, NOT AT MY EXPENSE EITHER. The other practice I try and do is apologize when I'm wrong to my kids. I think that shows them I'm HUMAN and I make mistakes too. Even though they are only 7 & 5, I definitely feel I have their respect and this will carry them through their teen years. My prayer for you is that you would always make good choices and hang around people SMARTER and WISER THAN YOU. You will definitel go far.
Sweetie, I sympathize with you. I only hope that you can be strong through it all and seek some type of counseling. It's not that child's fault that he's acting out this way, it's the parents fault. A child is a mirror only to his environment. This type of behavior doesn't just turn on and off like a light switch one day. Respect is a two-way street; you teach your child respect by BEING respectful. It's not always about spankings or discipline. I totally believe that if it's warranted, you should spank your child. However, that is not the answer for everything or every child. It's way too late in the game to result to spanking this child because #1 he's too old and too set in his ways, and #2 he has severe emotional issues that only a GOOD psychologist can help with. Unfortunately, there are many "mothers" out there lacking good parenting skills. I totally believe that it's a perpetual cycle. Maybe this "mother" had some issues growing up ... although, it's blatantly clear that she still does. The entire family needs counseling ASAP!!! Bottom line, SOME PEOPLE SHOULD NEVER BECOME PARENTS!!!!!!!
You are darn right Whatever I say goes because I'm THE PARENT. I'm RIGHT! Your feelings matter but not to the point where you'll get your way. I'M THE FINAL AUTHORITY! If you don't like it get out and get your own place!
Your kids won't be running away because they'll be running over you just like this kid. There is not abuse of power. Your a kid, the only right you have is the right to do what I say do and WHEN I say do it. Who do you think you are??? You're 16, you haven't even begun to live yet. You wouldn't have to run away, I'll open the door and put you out. You wouldn't last a week on the streets before you'll be begging to come home. Go out there in the world and see how you'll be treated.
I have a 16 year old and she knows she has to do what I say and that I am the wiser person. Her friends can't understand why she tells me everything and she tells them she values my opinion. She knows I'll never steer her wrong. My daughter and I have a great relationship. She and I get along like good friends but there's a limit because she's fully aware I'm her MOTHER first. So she knows there are boundaries on how she talks to me and what she can say.
Maybe if you would stop acting like your parents owe you something and that you should have an opinion maybe they would care and not be so angry.
You are a child. Therefore you haven't earned anything and your parents don't OWE you anything. What have you done to feel you can voice your opinion? Do you financially support your parents? Even if you did, you owe them that much because they raised you.
No family is perfect and once you step outside or yours you may have a rude awakening. I told my kids call DSS and report me. You can go into foster care but I guarantee you there's no place like home. Go and don't come back, that better be your final decision because I'm done!As long as you are under my roof I'm going to be your Azz and you're going to listen.
I can understand your frustrations. Oftentimes parenting methods are passed down from previous generations. Sometimes that's all a parent may know and think that there parenting methods are ok because that's the way their parents did it and so on. As a parent myself (of two) I came to the realization that my parenting skills needed improvement. I observed myself, prayed a lot, and studied the Scriptures. I humbled myself and allowed change to occur within me. One thing I learned was to admit to my daughters when I was wrong or fell short in my attitudes, methods, or even when it was revealed to me that I had given them incorrect advice. I wanted them to know that I love them very much and wanted what was best for them which required boundaries. And you are right, I had to develop patience and understanding to listen and hear what my children were saying from their perspective and learn to talk with each other and not at each other or in the passing - giving them my undivided attention. I let them know that I was not perfect and I made mistakes as a parent; but I was willing to learn and allow change for the better so we could have a good relationship with each other. Yes, it is important to have open communication without the parent fearing, getting angry or getting offended, and be able to communicate with love and in peace. I hope that your home situation will change for the better real soon! Be encouraged!
To and like all parents fail to....
I am really sorry you feel that way, but I became a parent at 18 and at 10 years old my daughter knows it would be war time if she were to do what this little kid did! I did not like when I was disciplined by my parents either but it made me the person I am today. I hated to hear "because I said so." From my mother(may she rest in peace) but I understand where and why she said those things. I just wished she was here today to I can apologize to her again because now I know what she knew (smile).
No child has the view of the parent unless they become responsible parents themselves. Had this been me, after I gave my look and told her I am not asking you but telling you, that would have been it! My daughter would not have liked it but she would have obeyed. That's called starting from infantcy....you have to teach kids the difference in you and them from infantcy. My daughter said once you are not my friend and I said you are right I am not your friend I am your mother and once you get to be an adult and move out of my house and support yourself then we can be somewhat friends. My daughter said once she wanted to leave so I told her to leave in what she came into the world in......skin! Don't get me wrong she is a very good child but she has her days and it's a part of growing up that she must test me but it's my responsibility to insure that she learns the lessons that I have. I enjoy being a parent and I bust my butt for my children.
To comment about that little boy.....I would have seen only red and it would have taken swat to get him off of him!!!!
While you make a valid point, you have a lot of growing to do. I can tell from your remarks that you are 16, speking form a 16 year olds' perspective. Live long enough and have children and you won't sing the same song. And while you may think that you can predict the future by your comment that "when I have kids, they won't try and run away"(not word for word), don't make a vow over something that you won't have any control. Pray that God gives you the grace to be an excellent parent and learn from what your parents have done, but never say NEVER! You don't know what the future may hold. Be careful of what you speak agains't your parents. Check out Exodus. Be blessed sweetie and gain some wisdom from what the word of God has to say regarding parenting as well as the role of the child.
Easier said than done. I dont think you will truly understand your parents or realize how much they understand you until you become an adult. Please remember what goes around, comes around. Parents truly want to protect you from anything that may harm you, and they dont stop trying to protect you because you are older. Remember, they were young once and they to were trying to outsmart their parents. Its like playing your favorite game,you are an expert at it. But if you find someone who has never played, you dont let them make the same mistakes you did. You give them the cheat codes or tell them how to defeat the bad guy so they can live longer. Same things apply to parents and children.
Honey, you are 16 years old and have no idea what it is like to raise a child. Work all day, pay the bills on time, keep clothes on their backs, food in their bellies and a roof over their heads....all the while the kids are complaining about what they think they don't have. One day you will have kids, and then you will see. I have three kids, a boy-13, two girls-10 and 5. They do not disrespect me in public or at home. I can take them anywhere and they act like they have some sense. I do not threaten my kids to make them mind, they know what the rules are and they know what their boundaries are, if they cross those, they pay the penalty, whatever that may be. I do not beat my kids, but when they deserve a good spanking or grounding etc. they get it. I on the other hand raised my hand to my mom ONCE...I regret it and paid a HEAVY price for doing it. We are now great friends and I understand why she was the way she was when I was younger....you will too one day.
YOU have NO idea what you are talking about. There is no balance of authority between parents and kids. The parents are the authority, plain and simple. You don't believe me? Go out and try to do it all on your own. If you survive, good for you but I promise you'll have a very rude awakening to the real world and how it works.
Hopefully when you are old enough to have kids you'll be smart enough to realize you HAVE to excerise control over your kids or they will do nothing but act up. I have two girls and with my first I thought I would raise her different than my parent's did me because I didn't like it. NOW I am paying the price. She is a total brat, she won't shut up when she is told, talks back and won' do what I ask her to do. I have to literally yell and spank her behind to get her to do even the simple of things. My second child is a different story, I did the opposite and did things the way my parents did and she is SO MUCH MORE respectful, helpful and well behaved. She is 5 years old! My oldest is 9.
That mother was wrong only in she let that boy get as far as he did. He should have been quiet the first time she told him to. She IS the boss of him. Until you are a legal adult your parents are RESPONSIBLE for you and that does mean the BOSS. I'll be damned if I go to jail because a child of mine decides I'm not the boss of them and does whatever they want. No way.
At 16 you have no idea what parents go through. You may not like what is going on in your own home but you can't comment on a parent that is TRYING to bring up a child in this kind of society. In the old days he would have gotten his ass beaten. I think some kids need that. Younger generations are awful including the one your in. I cannot stand teenagers of this day and age and REFUSE to let my kids act like the kids do now.
I am a 32 year old, but I was very concerned when I read your statement. Unfortunately, there is no handbook for parenting. We have to learn as we go. The job of a parent is to teach their children to use good judgement and to be a good example for doing what is right. The problem with a lot of parents today is that they don't spend enough time with their kids but want to be respected. That is not fair to the child.
I don't know if you believe in God, but I pray that he gets you through your situation. Keep your head up.
You sound like a very troubled kid, please for your own sake seek some counseling.
first of all! im 17 and we have to realize that we do have to listen to our parents wheather we like it or not. if you dont like the way they treat you then get the hell out. i feel that if i have children in the near future and if they dont like the way i run my household then there is the damn door because they will not be held by chains, they dont run nothing!! we also have to realize that our parents are not suppose to be our friends. that is not their job. dont get me wrong, you should be able to speak to your parents to a certain extinct. but there is always a level and we children fail to realize that!.and second of all if that was my child i would have kicked his ass just by the way he was talking to me. my father always thinks about himself too! but my siblings and i know that he wants nothing but the best for us! i dont have the best parents but they are far from the worst. just because your parent try to disipline you and try to raise you the right way does not mean that they do not care about you. we need to stop being so snobby and spoiled and do what we are told. and if you dont like it...find a job and move the hell out. ITS THAT SIMPLE!!!!!!!!
Dear Sweet Sweet Heart:
I am sure that your parents have growing to do. Most of us do. There are not many people in the world who are perfect and know exactly how to deal with children, life, marriages, etc.
I disliked my mother for the very abusive and hands-off approached that she used. However, I never disrespected her even though she disrespected her responsibilities as my mother. (in my option.) This continued honor, that I showed her, granted me favor in the years to come. Through this I learned how to be a better parent for my own children. I also managed to take my anger/frustration and turn it into energy that would get me out of that situation, i.e. focusing on School, work, sports & music. Once I graduated High School, I realized that life is about learning and no one, not even me, could be perfect at it. My mother was not perfect at it and could never be. She did, what was done to her. She just didn't know any better. Now the ball is in my court for my children. When you learn better, you do better.
Don't be so hard on your parents. Just be excessively nice, do your work, and look forward to the day when you can have the opportunity to give to your children, what your parents can't give to you. Honor them, even when you feel invisable. God will see the goodness in you, and bless you for it.
I hope these words penitrate your heart and give you a glimsp into my life.
It is not that your parents are always necessarily right, but they definately have more life experience. Usually when they tell you something it's because they love you and want to keep you in the right path. If you came at someone on the street the way you probably talk to your parents, they would do more than scream at you. I listen to my daughter but I get the final say and whenever she feels like that isnt fair I will help her pack and see how far she fares on the street at 16. That kid would have been plastered to the wall and in a boys home if I was his mother because I'll be damned if I support a child and sacrifice the way most parents do to be slapped by a child.
ITZ FUNNY HOW ALL KIDS BLAME THEIR PARENTS...I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD GRANDSON HERE WITH ME....HE STAYED OUT ALL NIGHT....BROKE LOTS OF CURFEWS...PULLED STAIGHT F'S ON HIS REPORT CARD....STAYED SUSPENDED....SMOKED WEED IN THE HOUSE...BUT WHEN HIS PARENTS TRIED TO SET HIM STRAIGHT....AS YOU SAY THEY WERE ABUSING THEIR AUTHORITY...SOMETIMES YOU KIDS MAKE YOUR PARENTS GO ABOVE BOARD....I DONT PLAY THAT HERE...AND HE KNOWS IT...SO WHAT ARE YOU AS A YOUNG MAN DOIN TO TRY TO PUT A SMILE ON YOUR PARENTS FACE......HUHHHHHHHHHHH
SHUT UP!!!!!!!! I look to see you on a talk show getting slapped by your child.