This is really sad. What would one do if their child slapped the heck out of them in a fit of rage? Slap that smart kid back, and say to him. This is unacceptable. You cannot slap me, the one who makes sure you're safe and warm and have food to eat. You need to be at the youth guidance center, or on some "scared straight" program, because you've cursed yourself, by disrespecting your mom, and if she doesn't have the guts to put you in order, or get you together, then the authorities should step in and let this child know, that there are worst things that can happen to a child that thinks everything should go his way. Hope the mom, has divorced this ungrateful kid, like the kid that divorced her parents.
In the last days.... Parents please understand that children need your love and guidance too! They spend most of their time at school. Parents attend sporting events, carnivals, and field day events. When most school throughout the United States have P.T.A. meetings, or even Parent/Teacher meetings the parents are no where to be found.
America what do you expect? Prayer and the right to discipline children has been taken out of the schools, and you expect teachers to pick and choose what they say to your out of control children. America is at fault! Every person that can read this need to thank a teacher, because most parents are not parenting these days.
The medical society is sedating them with medication, and the media has no respect for children. Most children have been thrust into adulthood to soon. Latch key children have no supervision after leaving school. Taxpayers are paying for children to eat two meals a day. Parents will not back teachers who try their best to tell parents their child(ren) have problems. It's a hot mess!!!!
There are few men who teach in our schools, because of the lack of enough money to take care of their families. What do you expect America? He's the typical child in a classroom in America today. I could go on and on but I don't think any teacher that saw this young man out of control was surprised.
As a country, we need to put prayer and discipline back in school, and tougher restrictions on parents who don't discipline their children.
Mother cover your buttocks, roll up your sleeves, turn the soap opera's off, and start rearing your children. And by all means watch who you sleep with. That little boy needs Jesus!!!!
God created children, so you can't rear them properly without giving them back to Him to help you develop them spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally.
That little boy is in deep pain. He was given too many choices at an early age.
I watched all of the Dr Phil episodes leading up to this clip. I'm not saying it's ok for any child to slap a parent. But you all are commenting on here about how this kid needs to be beat?!?! That's really intelligent, one beating deserves another. None of you should be commenting unless you know the entire story. As I said, I watched all of the episodes and this kid has absolutely been through hell. His sister died of brain cancer and from that point on his mother nearly abandon him emotionally. He's screaming for love and attention!!
But of course, everyone seems to agree the kid needs to be beat!!! No wonder our society is so screwed up!!!!
We would have left the show and went back to the hotel and he would have got his ass kicked!
Police, Fire, Coroner, Forensic Science. Hell naw! He would have needed the police to arrest me, the fire department to un-lodge his ass out of the wall and remove my foot from his ass, the coroner to put his toe tag on, and forensic science to determine his case of death.
Where can I find that child....I just want 5 minutes with him and then I will deal with the mother.
This is what happens when folks try to tell us how to raise our children. Some good ass whooping at a early age would prevent all that!!!
he needs his ass BEAT
I trully don't think I could have sat there and let me son (let alone) any slap my face and disrepect me in that manner! I wasn't raised that way. My mother would have literally had me pinned against the wall with my feel dangling! That little boy is out of control and the unfortuntate thing is that he will have problems his entire life no matter what. I feel sorry for the mother, yes, she could be his ass! Unfortunately the both has some deep issues that need to be dealt with!
On the Real...
I would have beat that muth*ucka's a$$ a looooooong time ago!
OMG...If I ever did that to my Mom or even thought of it, she would have reduced me to cosmic dust, w laser rays out of her eyes...zap!!! yikes !!! I dont know any women in my family who would have put up with his nonsense. Dang I'm 46 and....I'm still ssscaaareeeddd of my momma...and rightly so...smile..luv you Mom
You'd better beat him now before the Sheriff/Police beat him later..
I am always wondering how a country of laws can forget that the lack of parental discipline in a home will eventually result in the flouting of country's laws by the sme individual when they reach adulthood. Some where along the line we have forgotten that firm discipline of a child when required by a parent fosters strong well mannered adults when they grow up. I am the product of such discipline and I do not regret the discipline received from my parent as a child.
whoa , that would have been the last time you would have saw me if i hit my mother like that..she would have beat my ass to a pulp and then called the authorities to take me and her away..but seriously when she called him dude u knew where the conversation was going...clearly their are no boundaries between the mother -son relationship. She has allowed him to think he is an equal...Wrong! oh man I cant believe he slapped her and then said "how do u like that"..my mama tapped my ass whenever i got out of line and I think I came out just fine..Spare the rod...Spare the child.
It is amazing that the relationship between mother and son has gotten to a level where the son has no respect for his mother and the mother would even allow him to speak to her in such a manner. I applaud her for not reacting to the slap by slapping him back, which is no answer to the problem. The child most definitely is a candidate for anger management, because there seems to be an underlying reason for his reaction.
The upbringing of some children today leaves alot to be desire; therefore, the lack of respect that children have for a parent(s). If you speak to them as an equal, then you get instances such as this one. However, if you address them as the child and establish yourself as the parent, then instances such as this might have been avoided.
This is the result of the government removing control from the parents. When children were not allowed to stay in the same room as adults, not speak unless they were spoken to and the neighbors told when a child was misbehaving, this was not an issue. Secondly, parents (once upon a time) use to take the belt or whatever they could get their hands on to let the kid know, "I am the parent and you are the child". Now, if she had knocked the sh** out of him, she would be arrested and treated like a criminal for rearing her child. Personally, she should have whipped his izz!
Beat him like he's trying to get into or out of a gang!
This is what happens when you let kids express themselves. I call it the great experiment. "put the kids in time out. let them think about what they have done", starting at age two or younger. What do you expect when it back fires. Goverments need to stay out of family lives (unless things go too far) and let the parents do their jobs. Some kids need more disciplin, some just need to be spoken to. This kid needs something and we all know what.
That is some BS! You know that ain't going down with an old Skoo black momma!
There is no way that he would have even told me to shut up once...his lip would have been so swollen that he would have had to run out the room quickly and get ice
LORDY LORDY IS ALL I CAN SAY AFTER THAT ONE. I WOULD PUT MY FOOT SO FAR IN HIS ANUS THEN CALL THE POLICE AND THE AMBULANCE MYSELF. AND WHILE HE LAYING IN THE HOSPITAL BED HE WOULD SHE HIS MOMA ON TV SAYING NO I DONT REGRET WHAT I DID IF I COULD DO IT AGAIN I WOULD OF BREAK ALL THE BONES IN HIS BODY. I BE DAM IF THE POLICE COULD KILL HIM AND I CANT!!!!!!
I woulda beat the sh!t outta that fat f*ck!
I think the boy loss his mind whos the parent whos the child that slap would have resulted in a atempted murder charge for one of us. i think is out burst was a result of neglect and mental health issues, where the father?
The entire situation is a shame. The mother and son obviously were hurting from the emotional issues stemming from the loss of the daughter/sister that were never addressed. I can't imagine the pain a parent goes through when losing a child. If the pain was too much and it prevented the mother from functioning, she should have gotten counseling for herself and her son to help them in their grieving process. The son was missing the love and attention he needed, so he started behaving badly in order to get some type of attention. The mother should have seen when his behavior changed and took action immediately. Unfortunately, the mother let this get out of control and this is why they are in this situation. The child definitely needs to be removed from the home and put into an environment where he can be taught rules, discipline and consequences, such as military school. The mother needs counseling, parenting classes and a backbone.
As a note, I have two sons and neither one of them have yelled at me or even thought to tell me to shut-up. Therefore, slapping me will never even come into play. They understand that I am the parent and they must respect me and I will respect them.
The problem is the Mother. This boy is talking to her like he's on her level. Whose the child and whose the parent here? I understand he doesn't like his mother hitting him, but to slap his mother to make a point is unbelievable. He did it because he knew those cameras were rolling and she 's to afraid to really discipline him. His whole body language was totally disrespectful with the yelling an the finger pointing. She better get him in check before Police do.
Remember the part in the movie Kill Bill, when Uma Thurman's character saw red when she saw her enemies, that probably would've been me. But seriously, hitting your parents is TOTALLY unacceptable. But this behavior didn't just come out of the blue, or all of the sudden, She should've nipped that right in the bud, before his behavior escalated to this. Prayer is what they need and some reform school because hitting him back at that age is moot. It's ALMOST too late.
I have read through the coments posted on this site and I am in complete awww. If you watch that clip and and listen to that little boy you would see that the mother was playing a calm role for tv she obviously dosen't act that way at home and he was telling her that he wanted respect from her children deserve respect they deserve to be treated like people. I am a firm believer in disapline but I feel that woman knows how to push her sons buttons and she did for the show I don't feel that it is okay for a parent to play with a childs emotions the way she did and if it was up to me she should be the person people are focusing on and she should be charged wioth child abuse. He was reacting to her actions and as an adult you can control and manipuilate situations and that is what she did she manipulated it to go the way she wanted it to.
Whoa! whoa!! whoa!!! I can't stand this. To shot-up her mom several times and worst still to raise his hand and slap her is utterly outrageous. We need children to be friends and good companions not terrorists. It is so discouraging for any would-be parent. Most parents and kids misunderstand what is meant by child abuse. You do not allow a child to be this bad because of the fear of child abuse. Instead, this boy is not taught the right things, hence it is worst than the so-call " child abuse".To me a parent who can not bring his/her child to acceptable societal behaviour is abusing the child. This boy is spoiled by the so-call love and right of a child. It is offten said "don't spare the rod and spoil the child". Children actually need "tough love" in this our world today.
One son 28 and another one 26 And they have never done that cause they know they would have never saw those ages,Love them with all my heart and would do any thing for them. BUT THEY WILL RESPECT US( MOM &DAD).America wake up that is what is wrong with our kids today an ass whipping will line one right up .It worked for me and it worked for mine .They are no angles But I never had one to slap my face either.THEY LOVE THEIR LIVES TOO MUCH TO BE IN A COMMA!!!!!!!!!!
HAHAHAHAHA! What a stupid mother! I love that she just sat there! That room would have been in shambles after i got done whippin' him! We woulda both been dead (me and my son) cuz i"d have killed my son and the state would have killed me! Na i'm Shayin'!!!?
I don't give a damn about national television...I'd beat his fat ass on television if I were his mother, and then beat whatever coalition, organization, association, or support group that questioned his ass-whipping. This is INSANE. He couldn't be my child...I would have slapped him when he told me to shut up.
I would not have an arm left!! This child needs to be taking to the Caribbean school of knocks. The would beat his ass soft. This is nuts!
Are you f...ing kidding me?! I agree with everything that has been said.
"His mama said she brought you in this world and she would take you out. I guess she wasn't kidding!!!
Train up a child the way you would have him to go. This is what the training from Dr Spock has done.
Okay, I'm a TEENAGER, and even I know you don't DARE touch your parents like that! What the hell is wrong with that child?!?!He needs an butt whoppin' AND Military School! Man, if I touched my mom like that, not only would it be ARMAGGEDON DAY, I would be DEAD. I mean, I know when there's times you just want to go off on the parents, but YOU JUST DON'T DO IT (btw, that's just common sense!).This is partially the woman's fault, you know ( I couldn't hear the whole thing.). She needs to punish him like every other well-raised child in the US who has a mother who doesn't play needs to: KICK HIS BUTT HARD. Don't child abuse him, but give him a butt-whopping and punishment that he'll never forget!!! Make that child sorry that he EVER disrespected her!! I feel bad for him if he becomes older and realizes how cruel the world can be when you're a brat like that!! You know, now that I realize it since I'm older,Thank God my mom disaplined me well. If she didn't give the butt-whoppings and stuff, I would never be as respectful as I am and wouldn't be where I am. Instead, I would still be bratty like him.
I am a child and family therapist and while I do not believe in corporal punishment, I do believe that this family is suffering from the lack of good parenting skills. Somewhere, early in rearing, this mother surrendered control to this child. Sure, allow your child's voice to be heard, within reason, of course, and in a very respectful tone. If you allow your child to slap you then you most definately have trouble and layers of issues on hand. The problem with many parents is that they parent their children the way that they were parented and to no avail, it may not be the best way in dealing with your children-"to be a friend, instead of a parent" This ab"soul"utely will not work. Not only have boundary lines been crossed in this family but there are no limits set with this child. Many times, in the early rearing years, parents will think that it is okay to allow the lines and messages with their children to get crossed and thus producing during adolescent and teen years the result of what is being witnessed here. Mom, grow up and take your rightful place! And do understand that "rightful" depends on where you are standing at in the room. Mom, may not know how to do this and may need much coaching, interventions and skill building along with some definate boundary lines. Dad, if he is involved in any manner, needs to grow up and take his rightful place. If the two of the adults get on the same page, then it decreases and extinguishes the power that the child has in the situatuion. This family is in crisis and definately needs major help. While the natural instinct is to "slap the h--- out of the kid, what happened earlier in life when this kid was having epsiodes and acting out" Did the parents parent him then? The likely hood is probably not and now, much of this appears to be a little too late. Since I work from a strength-based perspective, I would say although it would be a challenge, there is help for this family. Many of you may say, "Whip the crap out of this child" (From a personal note, I was raised in a very strict household where I would have never been permitted to have raised my voice, let alone my hand, or yes, I too, would have been seeing stars for days!) The whipping would only be a temporary fix to a long stemmed problem. (That should have happened years ago!) Again, I say, there is help for this family!
Just for the record.
Ok, let's get one thing straight. No, do not applaud the woman for controlling herself when her son slapped her. Of course she shouldn't have lost her mind on the boy, but he needs to know that there are consequenses to his actions.
Throughout that conversation, and probably throughout his life, he was testing how far he could go. Each time he did something more outrageous you could watch his face and see him gauging her reaction. Once he saw that he was safe he went a little further. This is not strange though, if you know kids, they will always try to push the envelope. A parent's job is to train them up in the way that they should go. So very early on in the conversation she should have reeled him in and let him know that there would be consequences for disrespect. It only went as far as it did because he saw that she wasn't willing to do anything about it. In my parent's home, I would have gotten hit for the first "Shut... Let me talk".
Now listening to the mother's words, she isn't even assertive in saying that she's the boss to her own son. She says, "if a mother tells you to be quiet then she's the boss of you" or something to that effect, who is 'a mother'? Isn't she the mother? Why wouldn't she just say when I tell you... because she's not convinced.
The funny thing is, I'm not mad at the kid. I think he is doing what kids do when you don't give them boundaries. The word says, foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child, But the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. So should she have hit him? She probably wouldn't have had to if she'd have asserted his boundaries earlier on. But given that exact scenario, he was asking to get hit, begging for it. The good thing is, the kid still has hope, he said your not the complete boss of me, so he still sees her as an authority of some sort. I don't know if Dr. Phil is going to lead her down the path to regaining some of that authority and respect but I pray that she finds it somehow.
Well....What he did was totally wrong and I would have reacted much differently from the mother, However if you listen to the reason all of this started with the elbowing of the mom to the child and his perception of it makes me believe that the mom dropped the ball with parenting a long time ago...She obviously needs help and he does also.. I agree with everyone else that he needs boot camp but she also needs some type of parenting classes.
My Bad...My previous comment stated she shoved him first but he did because she didn't want to turn the volume down and he got mad....I probably would have kicked his butt on the airplane and none of you would have ever seen this because we would have never made it to Dr. Phil other than an interview from jail.
Have you seen the kid on youtube trying to tell his dad about the b-l-o-o-d - not funny. I would use the sneak attack on him. Wait until he goes to sleep,jump him and beat the living daylight out of him.
I tell you what.....There would be an Amber Alert for that little sh*t!!!
I let my child see this - afterwards I demonstrated on a doll what would happen to him if he ever in his life hit me .. well I got carried away.... and he said mama what did I do ... well I told him if he ever see that little person to pass it on.
i would have BEAT his little ass!!!!
Apparantly she elbowed him and he didn't like it because it hurt. I don't think she elbowed him hard enough because he didn't get the message to behave. That's why we whup the child when they are young because you don't have to whup as hard and the child is civilized. If she had been raising this child right he would have been done with the whupping stage 3-6 maybe 7. At this age all I had to do was give my child a look and it was over. Now she will have to fist fight him down the road and if she ain't in shape she's going to get whupped. Now all she has is a future wife beater she might as well buy him his wife beater t-shirt now. (he probably has one already)
I was shocked when I saw this video. I cannot comprehend the level of disrespect and total disregard for his mother's authority. I'm 26-years-old and I work with children from age 7 to 14 and it saddens me to say tha I see an increased level of disrepect for authority in general.
I blame the parents. Parents are not taking the responsibility of actually training their children and equipping them with the tools to deal with life. They aren't teaching them the very basic principles of respect for God, respect for parents and authority, respect for self and respect for others. These are things that most of us got from our parents at a young age.
Society has changed so much in the last 10 to 12 years and it's very evident in the behavior of our children. They say and do things that I would never dream of doing when I was their age, and it wasn't very long ago that I was their age!
My first reaction to this was "I would've knocked him outta his chair and so on and so forth..." When I thought about it though, there has to be something more that led up to this outRAGEous behavior. Of course that doesn't excuse his behavior, but instead of reacting the same way that he did, the real problem needs to be addressed. There is a lack of clear boundaries,which should've been taught and reinforced to him as a small child. Also, he obviously has problems handling his emotions, which also has to be learned.
The kid isn't being taught anything, so who's to blame? He can't learn what isn't taught and reinforced. So back to the parents. It's their fault.
man her son is such a fruit lil sissy. man i would love to see this kid ina fight. here he is tryna act all tough and bully his mom, but i bet if she actually stood up to him and striked him back, he would shut up and wouldnt do anything more. she dont even have to hit him hard. just backhand his mouth. man if i was the mom and i got slapped, i would immediately gotten up and punched him in the face. man she could have at least got out a belt, grabbed him by the britches, and hit him in the butt like 15 times. get his butt crying some more balled up into a corner. see thats the difference between black and white ppls parenting styles. a black parent would not let their child beat on them, it would be the other way around, but no to the extent of like the po po and social services.
This is what I know: A behavior that is rewarded will be repeated. In other words, this child's rage has previously gotten him what he wanted. He views rage as a means of winning. Parents often (very often) give in to a child's rages because they're too tired, etc. to deal with the underlying issue. Children are confused about when "no" really means "no". Because, for instance, it's okay to eat cookies before dinner today; tomorrow it's not. Or, I'm happy (the parent) so things are easy for the child; tomorrow the parent is unhappy (for whatever reason), so the child is dealt with more harshly! All human emotions.
This is also what I know: Every parent has had shouting matches with their children that would shame them if it were public. Very few children feel so disrespected and discounted (as the boy in the video). If you listen, you can hear his frustration with his mother's way of dealing with him. I believe he just wants her to affirm that what he's saying is valid. Parents need to allow children to win some arguments
-- if the issue is negotiable. [And, by the way, some things are never negotiable, i.e., lying, safety, etc.]
This is what I believe: That this boy isn't shown much love; that he's rarely hugged or kissed. Rather, this mother probably provides food, shelter and directions. She's probably one of those professional women who use their positions (authority) to bully others. It is often the children of these (OFTEN SINGLE) parents who are the most out of control. The fathers of these children have probably moved on because
they also couldn't deal with the woman!!
About this video: It is so sad. The child said he was trying to make a point! I believe that is so. The mother is right in what she said, but this situation is the culmination of years of this type of behavior! She needs to learn parenting. The child needs to come and live with me.
BettyJean, Washington, DC
My mom is 4"11 and 77 years old. I am still afraid to say certain things in her presence. It is called respect. Now if I had hit Marie, she would have placed me in traction and dared me to come home after surgery. My glass eye would have been in a jar beside my bed along with my newly purchased leg. There is no way I would have survived slapping my mom at the age of, what?....9 years old! Pleez Louize! Better still, at no age would I have survived. No Gloria Gainer going on there! What he needs is a razor strap, good ole fashion butt whipping and then a good hot bath. Let him sleep it off. When he wakes up he will feel like a new person, except for his butt.
I watched this sad display of parent child communication with my 4 year old son who immediately said at the end of the video " That's not suppose to happen." GOD bless the "rod"
There is nothing wrong with that kid, there is something wrong with his mother. It's all about bad parenting. She need to get control of her life before she can control her child life. She need to slapped over and over again.